How To Create An Irresistible Online Dating Profile

Many of us in midlife are finding ourselves in a situation we never thought would happen to us ... we're single again and venturing back into the world of dating. This time, however, it's online rather than offline.

When I divorced and was ready to meet someone again I believed I'd meet the 'old-fashioned' way, through a friend. Well, that clearly wasn't to be as dinner party dates became fewer and further between. Was a single, lively, midlife woman a bit of a liability? Was I seen as a threat by the women, who didn't want me 'flirting' with their men? Was I far too free and happy and unattached for the guys who feared me 'putting ideas' in their wives heads? So online dating it had to be!

Online dating is not for the faint-hearted! However, it can be a lot of fun once you've established your rules of engagement!

Take nothing personally. Really.
Have the right positive attitude before spending your time on dating websites.
Be businesslike about it.
Have fun and enjoy the process.
Take your time, don't imagine you'll find your life partner after one connection.
Be clear about what you're looking for before you sign up -- fling, friendship, long-term relationship.
Be truthful -- if you're 53, say so, if you're not into keeping fit don't say you've signed up for a half marathon!
Ask lots of questions from the lighthearted to the more profound.
Don't get disillusioned after a handful of dud dates.
Know your values and what's important to you.
Be open-minded.
Be sensible and safe.
With so many people of our generation turning to online dating to meet a new partner how do you write a profile that will stand out from the crowd? How do you create an irresistible dating profile?

Those were the questions I had when I was online dating. So I decided to work with a friend to craft my very own irresistible dating profile.....it worked and I'm now almost three years into a relationship with a wonderful man who loved my profile!

These are my suggestions and what I now work through with clients:

Create a Username that grabs attention, don't be lazy and use your initials followed by a handful of numbers! One of mine was Silver Pixie -- it's playful, cheeky and also lets people know I love my cropped silver hair ... it's showing a bit of my personality right from the beginning.

Write a headline that acts as a hook... it might be a quote from a favorite film or book or it might be the first half of a sentence ... you want to write something that leaves the reader wanting to find out more ... one of mine began, 'Pssst, pull up a chair let me tell you a story about words ... about finding them and ultimately about banishing them'

'Show don't tell' in your profile summary... it's easy to write a list adjectives that describe you or to list things you like to do on a Sunday afternoon ... that's boring and yet it's what the majority of people write in their online dating profiles...how many times have you read, 'enjoy walks in the countryside, love curling up with a bottle of wine and a good film, have a great sense of humor ... BORING! It's easy to stand out from the crowd if you take some time and create a snapshot of your life, for example write about one moment from your life that represents a turning point of some sort. It can be funny or serious. It'll be good if it showed a small victory, or growth in insight, wisdom or self-awareness.

The extras that make all the difference -- requirements for what you include in your dating profile vary from site to site so here are some extras that you can weave in to make your profile shine:

Five things I could not do without -- and I'm not talking about world peace or and your children. I'm talking about your favorite lipstick, the pair of shoes that you always feel awesome wearing, your iPhone/laptop, a selection of photos, the weird keyring your daughter bought you ... you get the idea ... it gives a little insight into your world.
Spectacular photographs -- that show you in action, relaxed, enjoying life ... hire a photographer if you're serious, NO selfies!
What I'm looking for.... not as in a shopping list of requirements but again an insight into your values and a snapshot into your life ... here's one I wrote ... I imagine myself with a man who has a great zest for life, a wise soul with a bold outlook on life. I imagine moments with him to be filled with laughter and passion.

5 Tips for Creating the Perfect Online Dating Profile

If one of your New Year’s resolutions for 2014 is to finally find love—and if you’re single, it probably is—then there’s a good chance you may soon turn to online dating. According to a Pew Research poll released last October, 59 percent of Internet users think that online dating is a good way to meet people, while 36 percent of Americans who are single and actively looking for a partner, according to dating site Zoosk, are going online to find a match. Now, you may think that having a face like Ryan Gosling and a bank account like Mark Zuckerberg is the best way to attract women online, but the truth is that even those guys would strike out with a crappy online dating profile. Zoosk studied a sample of around 4000 of their subscribers to understand the most effective ways to set up a profile and send messages, and they recently published their findings. We took a look at the data and broke it down into five easy tips to help you finally find your one true love. Or, at the very least, to get a reply from a woman who doesn’t just post photos of her cats.

1. Avoid the selfie!

Yes, selfies have become an ingrained part of our culture, but you should keep them on Instagram where they belong. According to Zoosk’s data, profiles with a selfie as the photo get a negative 8 percent response rate. So have a friend take a good photo of you, preferably outdoors, and make sure it’s a full body shot. Messages increase by a whopping 203 percent with full body photos. If you’re a little self-conscious about your body type, don’t worry about it. For one thing, women tend to be a little bit less shallow than we are in that department, and, for another, the less you blindside a woman with surprises on the first date, the better. Also, make sure it’s just you in the photo. Trying to impress women by snapping a shot of yourself with that supermodel-hot coworker doesn’t work. Nor will a photo of you with a puppy. Posing with animals accounts for a negative 53 percent rate of message replies.

2. Lay it all out on the table

Well, most of it anyway. While men don’t like it when women mention that they are divorced or have kids, turns out women do. The rate of message responses jumps by 52 percent at the mention of divorce or separation. So go ahead and be honest about those kinds of things. Just, you know, keep it within reason. If you have a foot fetish or a hardcore drug habit, maybe save that for date number...never. Also, make sure to keep things positive on your profile. No one wants to date a sad sack, so use words like "creative," "ambitious," or "laugh." Avoid words like "alone" or "desperately lonely."

3. Play it cool

You wouldn’t walk up to a woman at a bar who you’ve never spoken to and immediately ask her out on a date; you’d chat her up for a bit first. Get to know her, let her get to know you. Same thing applies online. Coming on too strong is a big time turn-off for women (although unsurprisingly, not for men. God, we’re easy) with first-time messages that mention "dinner," "drinks," "lunch" eliciting a negative 35 percent response rate. Also, you’re not Frank Sinatra, so steer clear of the demeaning colloquialisms like "baby" or "doll." Turns out women are not great fans of chauvinism, especially from someone they don’t even know.

4. Learn to talk good English

Let’s face it men, women already think we’re a bunch of cavemen, so they don’t need further confirmation in the form of incoherent and misspelled ramblings. Spelling errors or typing "cuz" instead of "because" in your messages will turn them off as fast as telling them you share a bed with your mother. And yes, emoticons count. This is tricky because women have a mastery over emoticons that we will never truly fathom, but misuse one and it could derail your chances. Same goes for text abbreviations. "Lmfao" will get you a giant 193 percent response rate bump, but "rofl" will get you stone cold silence. Basically the thing to do is to use common sense when dipping into emoticon and abbreviation territory. Anything that makes you sound like a fun, charming, intelligent member of society is kosher. Anything that makes you sound like a dimwitted drunkard whose idea of a good time is shooting rats at the local dump is best to be avoided.

5. This isn’t a shopping list

Don’t create a checklist of things you are looking for in a potential mate as if you were judging livestock. No woman is going to read that and think, Hey, I hit 10 of 12 on this list, we’re total soul mates! They want to know about you, not what you are looking for. Also, they’re looking to date a human being, not a blue ribbon county fair marshal. Talk about what you like to do, what your hobbies are, what you read, what you watch on TV, whether you are a foodie or not. Give the poor girl a chance to decide whether she thinks you might get along or not. And besides, you can list what you are looking for in a woman until you are blue in the face, but if the history of romance is anything to go by, 80 percent of that won’t matter when you meet the right person anyway.

ONLINE DATING: THE (MR.) RIGHT PROFILE Make the right first

If the Internet is good for anything—and, actually, it’s good for lots of things—it’s good for finding a needle in a haystack. Whether you’re hankering after a pistol grip for that vintage Hasselblad single reflex camera, or want to learn all the lyrics to R.E.M.’s “It’s the End of the World as We Know it,” the World Wide Web has made tracking down and securing even the most obscure objects your heart desires a lot easier.

Yet, when it comes to online matters of the heart, finding “the one” often remains elusive. That’s because love, like the Internet, has a lingo and etiquette all its own. Combining the two in an online dating scenario can complicate the delicate dance even further.

Once it was: “Boy meets Girl,” and, depending on circumstance, “Boy gets (or does not get) Girl.” Now, it’s Boy posts profile. Girl posts profile. Profile does or does not pique interest. Maybe Boy and Girl meet—or maybe they don’t, and if they do, do Boy and Girl live up to their profiles and live happily ever after?

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You never get a second chance to make a first impression. Bottom line: a dating profile—your first impression—is “sell copy,” and you’re the product being marketed. The trick for you as “Boy” to get the biggest bang for your buck is to optimize your pitch so it will best appeal to Girl’s brain with content that directly tags her where Cupid lives.

For that, you need to combine persuasive language with the kind of images that makes your profile pop rather than flop, which, as many have learned from experience, isn’t as easy as it sounds.

There are myriad of dating sites on which you can cast your line to do a little love fishing. While many of said online matchmaking entities equate “attraction” with a mathematical equation, Nerve Dating (an off-shoot of the sex/dating/culture site, Nerve.com), has incorporated social media conventions into their platform that allow soulmate searchers to create connections via interactive conversations, rather than simply writing essays, checking off endless lists, and hoping for the best.

We’ve tapped Nerve.com’s dating columnist Caitlin Robinson, AKA Miss Information, to offer some tips and tricks to those of you prepping to post your profile.

15 ways to make your online dating profile stand out

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Creating a dating profile can be scary. After all, it’s not always easy to big yourself up without sounding conceited or (even worse) desperate. But did you know that one in three couples now find love online?

In this fast-paced, social media-dependent world, we rely on the Internet for everything – from keeping in touch with old school friends and career networking to ordering takeaways and finding a cat-sitter for that weekend away. So it only seems logical you would use the good old Internet for finding that special someone, too.

That said, the world of online dating can be daunting if you’ve never tried it before, so here are our top tips for making the most of your dating profile and spotting a great potential partner.


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How to make the most of your online dating profile

1. Ask your friends for help
Get a friend to help you write your profile. Sometimes they know you better than you know yourself.

2. Avoid clichés
Even if you do like “walking on the beach” or “drinking wine in front of a roaring fire” leave it out – everyone says that. Think of something interesting that could be a conversation starter.

3. List sociable hobbies
‘People have to imagine how they’ll fit into your life, so describing yourself as a “bookworm and internet addict” makes them feel they’d never see you,’ explains match.com’s relationship expert Kate Taylor. ‘Play up your love of anything sporty, outdoorsy or public – like concerts and exhibitions.’


4. Choose action shots
Wouldn’t you know, profile photos that demonstrate you playing your guitar or downhill skiing – even if your face isn’t showing – get more messages.

5. Stay positive
Avoid negative tones and always be positive about yourself. Your profile is essentially your dating CV. You wouldn’t want a future employer to read anything negative, so why would you want a potential partner to read anything that isn’t positive?

6. Be honest
Lying doesn’t get you anywhere in the dating world. Honesty is the best policy!

7. Be specific
Talk in specifics to give a full flavour of who you are. If you love travelling, say where your favourite place is and why. Anything concrete like this brings you alive to anyone reading.

8. Update regularly
Keep your profile up to date. Make the effort to renew your profile on a regular basis with relevant information about yourself.

9. Check your grammar
Many people find poor grammar and spelling a turn off, and the best of us can make mistakes, so be careful on this point. Put your profile into Word and use your computer spell check for peace of mind.

10. Say cheese
In a recent poll, we found that 96 per cent of people would rather see a big, happy grin in a profile photo than a sexy pout.

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11. Choose recent photos
If they are more than a year old, don’t use them. One of the most frequent complaints about online dating profiles is “they may have looked like that once but they certainly don’t look like that now”. Looking better in the flesh is better than the reverse.

12. Keep it short and sweet
‘You wouldn’t introduce yourself to someone in a bar with your entire life history, so don’t do it online,’ says match.com‘s Kate. ‘Women have a tendency to write too much because we enjoy reading long profiles. Men are not like us! Imagine you are doing an icebreaker introduction where you have to sum yourself up briefly.’

13. Have fun
Most people want to find someone who can make them laugh, so show people you have a sense of humour. If you can make someone laugh, it’s a great icebreaker and could get your conversation off to a great start.

14. Be the focus
Don’t choose a picture where you are not the main focal point.

15. Summer lovin’

‘Our latest research found that people in summery photographs were seen as more attractive than in their winter pics,’ says Kate. ‘Go back through your Facebook holiday album and find some recent summertime photos.’

How to spot a good date

1. No negativity
If someone mentions anything cynical about relationships or comments about their “annoying” ex, move along. You don’t need a date with Mr Angry.

2. No arrogance
Avoid Mr ‘It’s All About Me’. It’s good to love yourself but there is a line that should not be crossed.

3. Check their photos
Are they in a bar or nightclub in every shot? If so, don’t contact them if you’re someone who likes to be in bed by 9pm.

4. No waffling
A long and very detailed profile could be an indication of what’s in store when you meet them in person. Nobody likes a waffler.

5. Kindness is key
Look for people with a good character. A profile that mentions family and friends, volunteering, and enjoying spending time with kids is a good sign.

Now you know how to make your dating profile stand out amongst the crowd, why not check out our round-up of the best online dating websites to sign up to? Looking for something a little less serious? These are the best apps for no strings sex – hello Tinder! Already a dating a pro? Then chances are you’ll related to these 12 soul destroying things you only know if you sign up for internet dating.

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Whatever you choose, just follow the advice above and chances are you’ll find what you’re looking for.

Las Vegas Dating Transformation

Over the past 20 years the face of dating has gone through some noticeable changes. Online meeting has become a norm, and is gaining in acceptability. You can choose the online dating site that suits you best, look for people who have the features you desire along with common interests and contact them immediately.

As more people flock online, there are companies ever more eager to jump on the dating bandwagon. Dating has become easier for everyone due to the emergence and success of online dating websites. You can upload a picture to your online dating service if you want, but it is not required.

The online dating sites are pretty simple to interact with. When you answer an online dating email, keep the tone light and friendly. Most sites have online dating sites have help should you have any questions or need assistance.

Allow the incredible opportunity of online dating to work for you. If you don’t know where to start internet dating, just hit some chat rooms of your interest. Online dating is now a huge industry.

Make sure you know about online dating safety and how to protect yourself from unwanted attention. With a responsible attitude and an open mind, online dating can be fun, safe, and exciting. Whether you find your date online or in person, you could end up with a true love or a broken heart. Despite what the advertising on the online dating websites want you to believe, your perfect match isn’t going to just fall out of the sky one day.

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